On my break for 4th of July I had some time to read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK by Mark Manson. I think the book was an easy read and helpful in a time when I’m trying to not lose my crap at work. Not giving a f*ck is an art form and we waste so much precious time worrying about the little things. My top three takeaways were this:
- Social Media Has A Way of Making Us All Feel Bad – I think the moral of the story is that if you’re having a bad day, you should probably stay off facebook, instagram and snapchat. I don’t know what the stats are on this but the ratio of people sharing glorious/happy stories on facebook to people sharing about the bad day they are having seems like it’s a lot to a little. If you hate your job for some reason, when you log in to facebook it seems like everyone and their mother is raving about how happy they are at work and about the promotions they’ve received. If you’ve had a few miscarriages it only seems fitting that every other post of the day is a new pregnancy announcement. Every single person I know has said that at least a few people on all three of these sites are full of crap and are showing what a wonderful life they have when in reality, that’s not the case at all. If you’re having a bad day, maybe it’s best to just stay off it.
- When Everybody Wins, We Lose – One of my favorite chapters is titled “Failure is the Way Forward” where he discusses taking chances and that the concept of failure is ever changing. In the era of “everybody wins” softball and peewee teams, it’s no surprise that everyone hates to lose and feels like a failure if they come in 2nd. Having room for improvement means that we aren’t perfect and that we can always do better. You have people who are better and worse than you in something and sometimes just average. That’s ok. He says that what makes people the “best” is that they themselves don’t always believe they are the best and as a result are constantly working on ways to improve their technique or themselves in general. We aim so high sometimes that while we fail to hit that insanely impossible goal we set for ourselves we also “fail” to realize that we’ve actually far surpassed most expectations and this new goal is actually still adequate and wonderful. These small failures can inevitably lead to growth which is sparked by motivation and cause us to push forward and aim higher in pursuit of our hopes.
- Limited Supply of F*CKS – Choose wisely how you’ll spend yours. We spend so much of our time giving all these f*cks out to everyone. Chipotle forgot to add the guac, your boss gave you a hard time about a project you were working on, it’s so hot in the damn elevator, etc. It’s not worth the energy. There will always be bigger concerns more worth your efforts. All of these little f*cks add to the daily stresses of your life.
You can buy The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK here.